21 Essential Tips for Young Pastors

Young preachers begin the ministry with a lot of fervor and idealism. They go to their first church believing they are going to make a difference, that they are going to be able to do what others before them have not done.

For a time it may seem that they are succeeding in changing the church but then the honeymoon period ends and the preacher realizes that being a pastor is not what they thought it would be. Sometimes this is so devastating to the young preacher that they leave the ministry. The number of one and done pastors is quite high. Being a pastor over a long period of time requires a preacher to lose their idealism and forces them to temper their fervor.

Why?

There are several things that every young preacher must understand about every church:

People are people.

There is a power base in every church.
Problems in the church are rarely exposed to prospective pastors.
Moderate, incremental change is difficult.
Dramatic, instant change is almost always impossible (because people are people and the power base will resist any change that robs them of their power).

Here are a few suggestions that I hope will be a help to every young preacher that reads this post:

1. Don’t confuse your self-identity with the church. Far too many pastors allow themselves to be swallowed up by the church, losing their self-identity in the process.

2. Don’t sacrifice your children or spouse for the sake of the church. Trust me, 25 years later, the church will have long since forgotten you and your sacrifice will mean little.

3. Choose which battles are worth fighting. Not every hill is worth dying on and not every challenge to your authority of leadership is worthy of a fight. Remember, the church is not your church. You, along with people who likely have been there for many years, are simply caretakers of the church.

4. Be willing to say, I don’t know. I realize this puts you at great risk of being unemployed (since church members crave certainty) but speaking with certainty when you know there is none is lying and dishonest.

5. Be aware of the traps that can destroy your ministry, especially the big 2 – money and women. Never touch the money and never allow yourself to be put in a position where moral compromise is possible.

6. Insist that the church pay you well. Do not be a full-time worker for part-time pay. It is OK to pastor churches that cannot pay you a living wage, but the church must understand that you have an obligation to your family and you must work a job outside the church to properly provide for them.

7. Make sure there is an annual pay review procedure in place. You should not have to beg for a raise. Make sure you have an employment contract where the job requirements, pay level, benefits, pay review period, and termination procedure is clearly laid out. If a church is unwilling to put all of this in writing, what does that tell you?

8. If at all possible, own your own home. Someday you will not be a pastor. Someday you will be old and retired. Then what? Where will you live? Churches can rent out the parsonage and provide you with a housing allowance. Remember, most of the church members are building equity in their home and you should be able to do the same.

9. Insist that the church pays into a 401K that you own. Do not let anyone convince you to opt out of Social Security. It “sounds” OK now but when you are old you will regret it. What happens if you are disabled and have not paid into Social Security? You are out of luck.

10. Make sure that all sacrifice is shared. Remember it is not your church and it is not you alone who is responsible for “saving” the church from whatever crisis it faces.

11. Don’t use your wife and children as gophers and fill-ins every time something needs to be done at the church. Insist that church members take ownership of the church and do the work necessary to maintain the church and do what is necessary to keep the church functioning.

12. Don’t be in a hurry to find a church to pastor. A lot of churches that are looking for pastors don’t deserve a pastor. They have chewed up and spit out the last five preachers before you and, trust me, they will do the same to you. Let them die.

13. If a community already has X number of churches, don’t delude yourself with thinking that if you started a new, exciting church that it would be different than all the rest. It won’t. People are people and churches are pretty much all the same. Don’t flatter yourself.

14. Focus on people that need help. Focus on the least of these. By all means, offer them Jesus but do not neglect their physical needs. The greatest difference you can make in a person’s life it to help them when they are in the gutter and help them rise out of poverty. Above all, be their friend.

15. Visit regularly in the homes of the people you pastor. Get to know them. Allow them to be honest with you and ask you whatever question they want. Eat their food, take them out to eat and pay the bill. Don’t smother them but don’t neglect them either.

16. Don’t get sucked into buildings and programs that the church does not need. Rather than building a fancy new building, complete with gymnasium, think about maximizing what you have so more money can be given to the poor. If church members want to play basketball or do Pilates, they can go to the gym.

17. Do everything you can to integrate the youth into the church. They should be stakeholders. After all, they are the future of the church. This does not mean that you must become one of them. There is nothing more embarrassing than a pastor who tries to act like a teenager. Grow up and be a good example.

18. Work hard and be honest. Don’t be the kind of preacher that gives all preachers a bad name. Just because you are the pastor of a church doesn’t mean you are entitled to special treatment. Don’t ask for discounts and don’t expect people to favor you just because you pastor X church on Main St.

19. Don’t tell anyone you are a preacher. Don’t self-promote. Don’t insist people call you Reverend or pastor. Be an authentic human being, complete with faults and frailties. Don’t be afraid to admit to the church that you are a failure, that you are no better than anyone else.

20. Don’t let people put you on a pedestal. Trust me, falls off the pedestal are nasty.

21. Above all, understand that life is more, far more, than the ministry. Stop and take time to enjoy life, to enjoy the world you say your God created.

The advice I give here flows out of a lifetime in the Christian church and 25 years in the pastorate. I hope some young preacher might find what I have written above helpful.

POSTED ON April 9, 2018

15 Comments

  • February 1, 2014

    Pastora

    #5–Please do not say that women are traps that can destroy.
    A) I agree that compromising situations can be a trap, but the trap is not women.
    B) It degrades women from human beings to destructive evil.
    C) Some pastors (and expastors) are women themselves, so in our situation compromising situations are more likely with men than with women.
    Thanks

    • February 1, 2014

      Bo Lane

      I don’t believe that was the author’s intent, to say that women are a trap, but rather to point out how easy it is to fall into a compromising situation.

      • February 1, 2014

        Pastora

        Bo- I totally agree with you. I do not think the author intended harm, I think the author intended to write with all positivity and good advice to be given. But with anything, wording is key and the way we talk about things can have unintended consequences. As a woman reading that statement I hear that I can be a trap. I am not the trap, the situation can be a trap though.

        • February 19, 2014

          Bobby Minor

          When I read it, I read it as “don’t put yourself in a situation where you might compromise with a woman”, and that falls 100% on the pastor.

        • March 11, 2014

          MartinPierce

          A female pastor also shouldn’t put herself into a potentially compromising situation with a man. The downfall is immorality itself, not a specific gender. As they say, it takes two to tango. I’m assuming that this article wasn’t written from an egalitarian perspective.

  • February 7, 2014

    Shocked.

    And where is The Lord in all of this? “Many churches don’t deserve a pastor – let them die??” Shocking. Jesus had compassion on the multitude, no matter what they were like. He had compassion on those who crucified Him. What if Jesus had said “Many souls don’t deserve a saviour – let them die”? If we cannot love the souls of all humanity, we do not have the love of Jesus in us. So how can we expect to feed the flock of God in that state?

    • March 15, 2014

      Michael Allerton

      He is infering that some churches are not worth the hurt. These churches metaphorically martyr their pastors. I pastored three of these. The denominational leaders wont fix them as long as some tithes trickle up. Don’t bother pastoring this type of church.

    • June 28, 2016

      Billy Findley

      That’s the best line on the list.

    • August 5, 2016

      Romario Ricketts

      You totally misconstrued that sentence. That “let them die” there is a use of metaphor.

  • February 8, 2014

    jason fischer

    Good stuff!!! Every young Pastor should hear this.

    • January 2, 2016

      Stella

      I appreciate the advice and points raised in the discussion. May we never loose sight of the fact that pastoring is or rather should be a calling not profession. And such we are not there for what we can achieve for ourselves but what we can give to the body of christ in our sphere of influence. May we tarry till we are ready to serve for the glory of God not ours. The church and pastors need to wake up and see the “hand writing on the wall” the world is watching likewise cloud of withnesses. We must reflect on our WHY. Stay in God’s presence brethren.

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  • February 1, 2015

    Pastor Hank Griffin

    Some of the points you made I believe are just wrong.

  • March 18, 2015

    Matt

    I’m a young gay pastor – first church – I appreciate your wisdom though all of the language does not directly apply to my context. Thank you.

  • May 24, 2016

    Enriche Ribeiro

    thank you very relevant great read very truthful

Bruce Gerencser lives in NW Ohio with his wife of 34 years. For 25 years, Bruce pastored Evangelical churches in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan.